Thursday, March 10, 2011

Mamma Guilt

Why is it that moms carry the weight of everything that goes wrong?  I am having a terrible feeling about leaving Callie at the airport this morning and so helpless that I can't help her get on to Hawaii for her spring break.
Let me start from the beginning.
Callie had a 6:10 AM flight to Hawaii this morning on US Airways. We were running just barely on time and hit construction and a detour. Still got her there with 40 minutes. She goes inside to check in and they won't even take her at the counter. They have a rule about being 45 minutes or so before flight time or you can't even check in.
Get this,..even with this delay, checking bags and getting a standby ticket, she STILL made it through security in time to board that flight, had they let her. But no, she has to wait and is told that all remaining flights are full. She was on standby for an 8:00 flight but it was a no go. She got standby for a 12:15 flight and just called to let me know she's on. This flight goes to Phoenix and she will take her chances from there to get on into Honolulu.
Her fiance', who booked the flight originally, is bound and determined to get her out to Hawaii for a week, so I feel like they will work it out even if it means a night in the Phoenix airport.
I am feeling terrible about this. She doesn't blame me for missing the flight but I feel responsible. She knows she should've gotten up earlier and been proactive about being at the airport early but once again, I have mom guilt. It is making me almost physically ill.  I can't help her and I need to let her be an adult (she is 20 years old, after all) but this is hard!
Anyone else know about helpless, guilty mom syndrome? 
I'm waiting around in the Dallas/Ft. Worth area and postponing my trip to central Texas until I know she doen't need me to get her at the airport. I'm  little stressed!!!


TheAlbrechtSquad said...

Mama guilt is the worst! I know that even when it's not my fault I just want to make it right in my kid's world.

Renee said...

Oh Paula...I definitely know how you feel. You would think that when our kids get older we would worry less...but I find that I worry more about them doing things, going places on time, do they have enough never ends. I have to force myself to keep my mouth shut and my hands out of their business.

Peppermint Ph.D. said...

Paula, I've certainly had my share of those days where I feel so guilty that I make myself sick...doubting every move I make, decisions etc...we do have to stand back at times and let them forge hard as it is...and it is the hardest thing in the world. Try to stay calm and let us know how things worked out.

P.S. the next time I'm in your shoes, please remind me of all the things I've just said :)

Peppermint Ph.D. said...

Paula, watching the news this morning and worried about whether or not Callie made it to Hawaii...let us know as soon as you can...

Mindee@ourfrontdoor said...

Dang - After hearing the news this morning, I'd say you had Mama's Intuition! Saw your tweet that she's okay. Glad to hear it.

Peppermint Ph.D. said...

I missed the tweet somehow but so glad to hear it...WHEW!!
Shot of tequila, anyone?

Quiltingranny said...

Wow! So sorry to hear this. My son (from Phoenix) and his wife fly Southwest and on their return flight we also hit construction. They had less than 45 minutes to get checked in and Southwest was very accomodating! They got through security and went right on the plane!