Thursday, October 21, 2010

I'm a Mother-In-Law

I announced several months ago that my oldest child, a boy, got engaged. I knew then I would become a mother-in-law, but my second oldest child, a girl, surprised me this week. She made me a MIL a little early.
Yes, she up and got married.
She is my oldeset daughter and will be 24 years old in January. She's old enough to get married. She doesn't need my permission but I was still a little sad and hurt that she got married and let me know afterwards.
I haven't talked much about this daughter. She was my problem child. Not as a little girl, but as a teenager. As a small girl she was absolutely precious. She only wanted to please everyone and was almost perfect. She got her feelings hurt easily and never wanted to disappoint. Unfortunately, as a teenager she got involved with a bad crowd and got into some trouble and become very angry and rebellious. I was a single mom at the time and she didn't have the advantage of having a male role model in her life that would help guide her and love her.
To make a long story short, she left home as soon as she was 18, went into one bad relationship after another and I rescued her until I had to move out of state with my new husband. Leaving her behind in a terrible abusive relationship was one of the hardest things I had ever done, but she was an adult and I couldn't make her go with me.
She has grown up so much. She has lost most of her anger and has made better choices. Bless her heart, she has learned every lesson life has the hard way. She's smart and beautiful and I've prayed and hoped that she would just find someone that would love and appreciate her so I could stop worrying. I think she's done that.
I haven't met him, but my youngest daughter has. She says he's amazing. He's a Soldier and a very successful one. He loves her and takes care of her. That's really all I could hope for. I look forward to meeting my son-in-law at some point.
Here's a photo I stole off her facebook. She's not big on email and sending photos, but a facebook geek, she is.
Here's to my daughter and her new husband. May you be blessed and stay crazy in love for the rest of your lives.


Expat Girl said...

I hope they have the happiest future together : )

JG said...

What a beautiful young lady. She sure sounds like a free spirit. I'm sure it's hard feeling left out on such a special moment in her life. I can only imagine how my mother would feel. But it sounds like she has found a great guy and will be happy. Hopefully you can all meet up soon!

Renee said...

Congratulations!! It's a HUGE moment to become a Mother-in-law! I understand all too well the sting of not being part of a wonderful moment..but I have 2 amazing spouses for my children as a result!

Jane said...

She's beautiful! I hope she's found her happily ever after. :)
Congratulations to all of you.

USMCWIFE said...

Well first of all congratulation to you and your daughter, they are indeed a great looking couple. In the spirit of sharing I will tell you I was your daughter at one point in my life. To say I was a wild child is an understatement of epic proportions. Unlike your daughter my mother was not there for me, after she was war widowed at such a young age with 2 small children she fought her own demons and my sister and I had to find our own way. I too struggled and fought against things that I didn't even know where there, but I think I turned out ok. I am so happy your daughter has found someone that is focused and successful and that is what I did as well. I found a best friend that loved me for who I was, warts and all and I grew into the person I am today in large part because of him loving me. Your daughter is so lucky to have you both!

The OutPost said...

Paula,Congratulations...As you know I am well aware of the hurt you feel when your child chooses to have one of the biggest events in their life without you. I wish them all the best in life and I am sure you will be a great MIL.

Michelle said...

Congratulations! on your family addition. Kids just don't think sometimes. I know when we got married on a Wednesday in the living room of a JP near Ft Drum we weren't thinking about our family. I joked with my parents about all the money we saved them. I felt bad that we didn't share that day with them.

Mindee@ourfrontdoor said...

Well hey - no wedding drama or bills, right? But, yeah - it would have been nice to see, even if you were just sitting on a bench outside the courthouse.
Congrats on what looks to be a good choice and hopefully her happiness with him will spur her towards making all her relationships happy ones.