Monday, May 3, 2010

I'm going to be a mother (in-law!)

It's funny that I just wrote about my oldest child graduating college a few days ago. Last night he called to me he had finally asked his girlfriend to marry him. He's had a ring for her for several months now and finally thought the time was right.
I must admit that he has dated girls that I thought were sweet girls, but not who I would choose for him to marry. However, when I met this young woman last summer I loved her. I could not have hand picked a better girl to be my son's wife. As a matter of fact, I told him she may be too good for him! She's a true sweetheart, has great personality, is lots of fun, and is just beautiful inside and out. I'm so excited for both of them.
I will say that it's been a little difficult to realize that I'm not the most important woman in his life anymore. That didn't just happen last night when he proposed, it's been slowly happening the last few years.
I hope I can be a wonderful mother-in-law. I really think I can do this without interfering and being in their business.
When my kids were in high school, they called me "snoop dog" because I was always snooping and prying into their lives. I figured it was my right and my responsibility to know what was going on. I would not be one of those mothers whose child came to them pregnant or addicted to drugs and be blindsided by it.
My lovely son told me last night that I would probably still be snoop dog and I assured him I have no reason to now.
My husband tells everyone that I will be Marie Barrone from "Everybody Loves Raymond"   God help me, I hope I'm a little better than that!
Here are a few photos of the cute couple take last summer when they were visiting me in Hawaii and then one with me.


USMCWIFE said...

Congratulations! I am so happy for your son, she is a doll and I am sure she will make your son happy. I hope I can be as gracious as you when the time comes..hopefully not for a long time!
Again Congrats!

Expat Girl said...

Congratulations to your family!

Renee said...

Congratulations Paula! What exciting news!! They are a very handsome/beautiful couple!! Lots of wedding plans to keep you busy!!

Peppermint Ph.D. said...

AWWWWW! Congratulations!
She looks like a sweetheart!
Mine are nowhere near marrying age (they'd better not be anyway)...but I know what it's like to have them date someone that you'd really wish they wouldn't. I'm always scared to say too much about my opinion bc I don't want to do the opposite and push them in the wrong direction :) you know how children are with parental advice sometimes.
I am a snoop dog as well...the way I see it: We went to way too much trouble to bring these kids into the world to let them just flail around and turn into hooligans :)

Southern Belle said...

Congrats!! That's so exciting! My mom has LOVED being a mother-in-law, but it's been an interesting transition for her to go from being EXTREMELY involved (she's also a Snoop Dogg), to letting us make decisions on our own without always giving her 2 cents ;) So happy for your son!

Jessica said...

Congrats to your family! How exciting for your son and his soon-to-be wife!

Mindee@ourfrontdoor said...

Wonderful news! I'm delighted for you. And you'll be good. Just make sure you have a close friend who will tell you when to shut up. :)